“When one follows the path of individuation, when one lives one’s own life, one must take mistakes into the bargain; life would not be complete without them. There is no...
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Integrity
“Recovery of memories is not about gathering information about the past. It is about mastery over what has been unclear or avoided in memory, making meaning out of one’s personal...
Non-Violent Resistance in Intimate Relationships: A How-to Guide
“It takes two to keep your marriage the same; it only takes one to change it. When you change, the relationship changes.”David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, p. 199 There are few...
Three Stages Out of Depression
“Every depression is caused by something depressing that has happened, with no exceptions.”George E. Atwood, The Abyss of Madness, p. 166 The title of this article is very alluring for...
God’s Invitations: An Exploration of Christian Spirituality
“To realize truth our whole being has to be brought into accord with actuality, with things as they are, which requires that in communications with others we respect things as...
Dads…
“When we understand that we are born babies, that we all bleed blood, and that we experience the same pains and joys, then we have the basis of the empathy...
Poor Decisions Are Decisions Made Poorly
“It takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that you’ll do things differently.”Warren Buffett I had a professor who later...
Bucket Lists
knows the anguish of our attachments and assures us that letting go of what we think we must have to be happy is the same as letting go of our...
Honor Your Conflict
“Any person suffering from any level of despair has failed to form a narrative that effectively connects the present with the past and the future.”Andrew D. Lester, Hope in Pastoral...
Reflections on Perfection
“When approval is conditional on performance, then closeness and affection are bound to suffer. Maladaptive perfectionism hides deep-seated feelings of insecurity and vulnerability. In particular, the feeling that excessively high...