Category: Blog

Reflections on Perfection

“When approval is conditional on performance, then closeness and affection are bound to suffer.  Maladaptive perfectionism hides deep-seated feelings of insecurity and vulnerability.  In particular, the feeling that excessively high standards are expected and necessary to win approval and acceptance can lead to intense feelings of hopelessness.”   – Madeline Levine, Ph.D., The Price of […]

The Devil Made Me Do It

I’m doing one of those Bible reading plans where you read the Bible in a year.   Each day you read something from the Gospels, Epistles, Psalms or Proverbs, and the rest of the Hebrew Bible.  It’s helpful for me to do this on occasion due to my tendency either to soften my memory of source […]

Jesus’s “Third Way” and “The Wall”

“We should be non-attached, but non-attachment must not lead to apathy; we need to be concerned with justice, but we must not meet injustice with anger; we should be ready to act, but action must always take account of the conditions which lead people to act in unwholesome ways, and be motivated by compassion for […]

The Crucible of Vulnerability

Friends, when life gets really difficult, don’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job.  Instead, be glad that you are in the very thick of what Christ experienced. This is a spiritual refining process, with glory just around the corner. (MSB)   – 1 Peter 4:12-13   If you’ve been in any […]

God, Community, and “The Wall”

“Repentance…demands a radical turning away from what was and a trusting in the unknown journey of faith.  It means acknowledging one’s implication in the sin of the world and a beginning to live as if God were real.  Repentance means giving up control and learning to trust God enough to feel certain that whatever God […]

Fear

Not so long ago I was having a difficult time with a number of things in my life.  There were many round pegs and too few square holes.  This wasn’t just relegated to my personal life.  I had a few clients who were challenging, one of whom was delusional, possibly psychotic, with hints of antisocial […]