Author: Steven

Poor Decisions Are Decisions Made Poorly

  “It takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that you’ll do things differently.” – Warren Buffett   I had a professor who later became my clinical supervisor. He was a jolly guy. He’d start classes by reading the “Real Fact” from the inside of […]

Bucket Lists

“The secret self knows the anguish of our attachments and assures us that letting go of what we think we must have to be happy is the same as letting go of our unhappiness.” – Guy Finley     The Academy Bridge in Venice, Italy is one of only four bridges that span the Grand […]

Honor Your Conflict

“Any person suffering from any level of despair has failed to form a narrative that effectively connects the present with the past and the future.” – Andrew D. Lester, Hope in Pastoral Care and Counseling, p. 36   I hadn’t seen Dave in about five to six months. He first came to our Tuesday night […]

Reflections on Perfection

“When approval is conditional on performance, then closeness and affection are bound to suffer.  Maladaptive perfectionism hides deep-seated feelings of insecurity and vulnerability.  In particular, the feeling that excessively high standards are expected and necessary to win approval and acceptance can lead to intense feelings of hopelessness.”   – Madeline Levine, Ph.D., The Price of […]

The Devil Made Me Do It

I’m doing one of those Bible reading plans where you read the Bible in a year.   Each day you read something from the Gospels, Epistles, Psalms or Proverbs, and the rest of the Hebrew Bible.  It’s helpful for me to do this on occasion due to my tendency either to soften my memory of source […]